Love Your Life: Get Off the Fence

W ant to know the first step to falling in love with your life?  Getting off the fence and deciding that you are going to do it.  I know it sounds simple, but darling, we often underestimate the power of decision.

It doesn’t matter which side of the fence you get off on sometimes. What matters most is getting off. You cannot make progress without making decisions. Jim Rohn

Many people don’t want to make decisions because they don’t want to lose stuff. Because once you’ve made a decision and chosen a path, you’re also choosing to ignore all the other paths.  The thing is this: if you don’t make a decision, then your life will basically stay the same, even if “the same” means excuses, negative self-talk, and baggage.

Darling, now is the time to lighten your load, forgive yourself, and drop the baggage in the dumpster where it belongs!

I know. Staying in the familiar seems safe, but it can be destructive to your heart and mind, your body, and your soul.  Your heart wants to expand. Your mind longs to learn. Your body desires to touch and experience new things. Your soul is begging to fly.

So, tell me darling:  What do you desire in your life?

What decision do you need to make to begin moving in the direction of loving yourself?  What decision do you need to make in order to begin moving towards falling in love with day to day life?

My dear, when you reach the level of DECISION, the game changes.

The voices in your head will try to convince you that you don’t need to change.  That you don’t deserve to be happy.  That you don’t deserve to fall in love with yourself or your life. That your decision is ridiculous or impossible.

Darling, those voices are wrong.  You get to decide who you want to be. Period.

There is a moment in everyone’s life where you get to decide.  Are you going to stay in the same place where you currently are, or are you going to decide to go in a different direction?

Once you decide, you simply need to start stepping outside of the familiar.

I know that when you make a decision, you’re choosing to ignore another path.  But do you want to know a secret, darling?  If you don’t like the result of one decision, all you have to do is re-decide.

Don’t worry about getting it wrong.  Everything that you are currently experiencing began with a decision.

Make one decision today to move you in the direction of your dreams.  So, fill me in, kitten:  what’s one decision you can make today?

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By Debra Smouse: Writer, life coach, and Tarnished Southern Belle, Debra helps people fall in love with their life. An expert de-tangler, she believes in busting clutter as a path to greater clarity and that within every woman is vibrant, passionate, and sexy being just itching to make their inner sex kitten roar. A native Texan, she resides in Ohio with the Man of her Dreams.

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  1. Joanna Z. Weston October 4, 2012 at 11:48 am #

    I think the biggest barrier to making a decision (at least for me) is the fear making the “wrong” choice. But of course, not making any decision is a choice in itself, and that is certainly going to be the wrong one if I am unhappy with the status quo!

  2. Sarah Yost October 11, 2012 at 4:34 pm #

    I’m with Joanna. Fear of deciding because I’ll be “wrong.” Or because I’ll have to deal with conflict/push back from others.

    What I try to keep is a willingness to be wrong. If it’s not a big deal if I’m wrong, then I’m much more willing to decide and get on with it.


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