I magine that you are Jane.  You live in the jungle and life is nice.  You have a lovely tree house and you love Tarzan.  But you’ve come to realize that you want to take control over the direction of your life.  Love is great and all –  yet you know that you don’t want rely upon Tarzan for everything.

I mean, let’s face it:  living in the tree, while safe and fun can honestly be a little boring.

Your heart tells you that you can explore, learn and embrace the beautiful life around you.  In fact, your heart insists that while it’s nice for Tarzan and Cheetah and everyone else to like you, what’s most important is your opinion of yourself.

Listen to your heart, darling, Jane.  Muster up your courage, grab a vine, and begin swinging through the jungle.

As you begin exploring the jungle, you first only change vines when you can touch the next vine in your route. You build upon your courage and realize that you can take bolder actions. You want to explore more of the jungle and this means soaring through the air and reaching for a vine that’s further away. In order to explore further, you find that sometimes you have to let go of the vine in your hand without being able to see the next vine. You just have to know that it’s there.

But this isn’t the jungle, baby:  it’s the world and your life.

And sometimes, darling, you just have to take a giant leap of faith.

Your mind will say all kinds of mean things to you meant to keep you in the tree.  The tree is familiar.  It’s safe. You know exactly what to expect while you stay in the tree.  Yep, your inner lizard wants you to play small and never change.  Your Inner Critic may chime in and say “Didn’t you say you wanted a hunky man to take care of you?  Are you strong enough to swing out and explore on your own?  Are you worth the risk of exploring?

Let me tell you something, sweetheart:  Damn right you‘re worth it.

You are worthy of dreaming big and exploring large.

Take it from me.  I was once like Jane in the Tree.  Then, I discovered that deep inside, my heart was crying out for me to be my true self: Warrior Jane.  I learned to go through life on faith.  Faith has led me to embrace my passions, find my courage, discover true love, wrestle with forgiveness, and fall head over heels in love with my life.

You have a choice, darling: you can stay in the tree and cling to a single vine of your current existence.  Or.

You can swing out as far as you are able, take a flying leap and embrace what’s it’s like to live fully.

You desire and deserve a life that feeds your soul.  You deserve to leave behind what drains your energy.  You deserve to embrace love.  To leave behind  you living small, regrets, and the pieces of your broken heart that is strewn upon the floor of your past.  You deserve to let go of the self-image of a person who doesn’t deserve happiness or love.

For you deserve the most powerful love of all:  the love of yourself.

Choose love over fear.

Discover that even when the vines of life seem too far apart, your heart will know that the next vine is there waiting for you.  Embrace your life.  Embrace faith.

Discover who you really are – and what you really desire.

Tell me darling, what one step can you take in the direction of your heart’s desires?  I’d love to hear about it, so let me know here in the comments.

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By Debra Smouse: Writer, life coach, and Tarnished Southern Belle, Debra helps people fall in love with their life. An expert de-tangler, she believes in busting clutter as a path to greater clarity and that within every woman is vibrant, passionate, and sexy being just itching to make their inner sex kitten roar. A native Texan, she resides in Ohio with the Man of her Dreams.

33 Responses to “Channeling Jane in the Jungle of Life” Subscribe

  1. Dianna Woolley April 19, 2012 at 2:48 pm #

    Hi deb,
    I’m definitely Jane today. Just finished a nice 10 mile training run:)
    Woohoo! I love this post!

    • Debra April 19, 2012 at 4:57 pm #

      Whooo Hoooo! I LOVE hearing that. You ROCK!

  2. Mindy Crary April 20, 2012 at 1:55 pm #

    As someone who has grabbed for the vine and fallen on her ass more times than I can count, Warrior Jane also learns that she can love herself MORE in all of her mistakes and imperfections as she gains the skills and knowledge she needs to move along her true path.

    The other part of this story is leaving Tarzan behind–do we always need to? The post made me think of the Lillian Hellman quote: “People change and forget to tell each other.” Tarzan might be able to make the switch from big, shiny alpha male to supportive alpha male, we never know.

    • Debra April 20, 2012 at 5:37 pm #

      I’ll be totally honest, Mindy – I think that Tarzan fell in love with Warrior Jane – deep down he always knew she had a lovely gentle strength. A relationship is more likely to fall apart when people aren’t true to who they really are – at least in my personal opinion, experiences and observations.

      And yep, a vine slipping out of the hand and needing to climb back up is where we discover more and more of what we want, what we don’t want, and where our true path lies!

      • Katie April 24, 2012 at 1:08 pm #

        Ha! I so agree with you Debra! I was so confident and strong when I met my husband. I’ve lost and regained it along the way. I see my husband respond so positively when I’m doing what I love. 🙂

        • Debra April 26, 2012 at 4:48 am #

          You’ve hit the nail right on the head, Katie: our partners only want us to be ourselves!

  3. Joanna Weston April 20, 2012 at 5:31 pm #

    This is so important, but also hard for me to do. Trusting that the next vine will appear is not my strong suit! But it is something I consciously try to practice. For me right now, the “next vine” is finding more clients. So I’m taking actions that will hopefully lead to that end, but I can’t know for sure what, when, or how it will work. But I’m maintaining faith that it will come together somehow!

    • Debra April 20, 2012 at 5:42 pm #

      I hear you, Sister! Maintaining our faith in ourselves is challenging – but also one of the most rewarding things we can do.

  4. Cindy Chin April 21, 2012 at 9:22 am #

    Awesome analogy. We always fear what we don’t see, but we’ll never see/experience what’s out there if we don’t leap, even if it’s a small one!

    I’m a big believer if standing on your own first. To that end, I’m following my intuition to get creative with my business!

    • Debra April 26, 2012 at 4:51 am #

      Thank you, Cindy – and HOORAY for you! Following your intuition is key, isn’t it?

  5. An April 22, 2012 at 10:51 am #

    What a cool analogy. I’ve done it all, grabbing for the vine and falling on my ass, just staying in the tree, grabbing the vine and hanging there in midair – closest tree just out of reach. And even though it hurts to fall, or is scary to grab that vine, or so lonely helpless-y hovering in mid-air, going through all that is what makes us so much more creative, strong and confident. Knowing that you might fall or hover in midair and knowing that you’ll handle it.

    • Debra April 26, 2012 at 4:50 am #

      Thank you, An.

      It’s knowing that at every possible stage – grabbing, falling, hanging in the tree, or joyfully swinging in mid-air – we will grow stronger. It’s much better to try, even if we fail and need to try again, than it is never having lived!

  6. Katie April 24, 2012 at 1:09 pm #

    I love the way you presented this Debra. I choose to keep reaching for the next vine, no matter how scary it is sometimes.

    • Debra April 26, 2012 at 4:47 am #

      Thanks so much, Katie!

  7. Blaze April 24, 2012 at 7:03 pm #


    You got one heck of a way with words!

    How’d you get so smart hanging out in the jungle and all?

    My hunch is it’s your love over fear!


    • Debra April 26, 2012 at 4:47 am #

      Thank you, darling Blaze. And you nailed it: It’s all about LOVE, baby!


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