Are You In Touch With Your Anchor?

J ust like our personal values are the rudder of our ships will become a basis for plotting our life, if you aren’t in touch with your heart’s desire, then creating your year can’t happen. That’s because your ship needs an anchor. And that anchor is how you want to feel.

I have a couple of questions for you:  How do you feel today? 

How do you want to feel?

During my journey in living the life of my dreams, I’ve learned two important lessons about feelings.

One – you have to learn to identify your feelings and actually allow yourself to experience them.  All of them.  Yes, even the not-so-nice ones like anger, shame and embarrassment.  And yes, even the good ones, too.  Because all too often we feel we don’t deserve to be happy, experience ecstasy or embrace pleasure.

Two – you get to choose how want to feel.  When you get in touch with your heart’s deepest desires, it will whisper to you that it wants to experience some area of feeling good.  Identifying how you want to feel is critical to charting the course for the life of your dreams.   You get clear about how you want to feel and then you begin doing things that make you feel that way.

In order to set sail into the life of your dreams, you need to clear about everything. 

And this includes how you want to feel.

Just like our personal values are the rudder of our ships will become a basis for plotting our life, if you aren’t in touch with your heart’s desire, then creating your year can’t happen.   That’s because your ship needs an anchor.

And that anchor is how you want to feel.

Dropping anchor allows a ship to be still and deliberate.  Dropping anchor is how a ship settles into port to allow new things on board as well as getting rid of rubbish and unneeded items.

Look at it this way.  You come up with goals and visions for the areas of your world – personal and career.  You believe that if you actualize that goal, it will give you a level of feeling successful, worthy and satisfied.  When you reach a goal, how will you feel?

Sometimes, we reach goals and feel something unexpected:  dissatisfied, anxious or even empty.  When we look at it, we realize we set a goal based on outside expectations of us, not our inner burning desires.  But  if you get in touch with how you want to feel, then your actions and goals will be ones of your heart of hearts.

You get clear about how you want to feel.

 And then you begin doing things that make you feel that way.

If you are not clear on how you want to feel, then you have no way to determine if your actions are congruent with your hearts desires.

So, let me ask you again:

How do you want to feel in 2012?

There is no right or wrong answer to this question.  Don’t allow guilt to play into wanting to feel the way you want to feel.  In order to live in the zone, you need to follow your desired emotion.  Let it roll.  It’s deep inside your heart for a divine reason:  it’s a guide for you to fulfill your purpose.     You have a right to be happy – and one of the steps to being happy is being in touch with your feelings.

Last week, I told you about my new eBook:  “Three Steps to Sailing Into Your Best Year : Creating Your 2012 Compass”.  Last week’s blog post introduced the first concept in “Naming Your Rudder”, a guidebook for clarifying and defining your personal values.

The next step in creating your compass is Dropping Your Anchor: Getting Clear About How You Want to Feel.   Because what we focus on grows, choosing to focus on the feelings you want is a key component for creating the life you desire.

 Part Two: Dropping Your Anchor is a guidebook for clarifying and defining how you want to feel. Going through this process will bring your crystal clear clarity.  Defining how you want to feel will put you on course to living the type of life you truly want.

And whenever you find yourself in the midst of a storm, you will simply need to get in touch with your heart by dropping your anchor to the depths of the sea.

I’d love to hear your thoughts, so please leave a comment and tell me what you think your own guide words are now, so that we can compare later.

 

PS – Initial reviews of “Three Steps to Sailing Into Your Best Year : Creating Your 2012 Compass” call this eBook/eCourse/eWorkbook  “powerful and effective”, “fantastic”, “warm and inviting.  I’ve been told it should be priced at $25. However, as my holiday gift to my subscribers, this powerful tool is available complimentary for a limited time.

(Simply go here to subscribe and upon confirmation, you will be emailed a link to download all the parts of the eBook.)

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By Debra Smouse: Writer, life coach, and Tarnished Southern Belle, Debra helps people fall in love with their life. An expert de-tangler, she believes in busting clutter as a path to greater clarity and that within every woman is vibrant, passionate, and sexy being just itching to make their inner sex kitten roar. A native Texan, she resides in Ohio with the Man of her Dreams.

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